Mama Carrie Makes

Truthy Tuesday, Work to Live

Dear Reader(s),

I have been neglecting my little blog as of late. My brain has been totally consumed with the major drama of my life, work. I am of the opinion that work should facilitate my life. Not be my life. I work to get a paycheck to pay for my family to live and partake in activities that bring meaning and joy to our lives. When the drama at work takes over my waking mind and prevents me from sleeping, it’s time for a change.

I’ve been searching for a job somewhat half-heartedly for about two months now. No real bites. But now I need to focus on finding something new, something in the same state as my home. I want to continue posting regularly, but they’ll probably just be picture posts for a few weeks, hopefully two months at the outside. I WILL have a new job by then, and then I can turn my energy to writing and opening my Etsy shop.

Right now, though, all my energy is going to the MakesFamily, and to selling my awesome self to the employer that is smart enough to hire me.

Prayers, wishful thoughts, jedi hugs…all welcomed.


Photo Collage. Life is Good


Truthy Tuesday, Death Panels for All

Humans need to address the fact that they will not live forever, the earlier in life the better.  We need to experience death as a concept before we experience it as a reality. Ditto with grief. If we teach our children that death is a part of the life cycle for humans, and that we do not know how much time we have, perhaps our children would value every moment they’ve got.

Hospice. Words to RememberPhysicians need to be reimbursed for the time spent discussing this reality with their patients. So much of our healthcare budget is spent on treatments that might prolong a patient’s life beyond what they truly want, giving them quantity without quality. So many patients wish to die at home, but don’t know what a viable option that really is. So many do not want heroic measures used to save their lives, but because they’ve never discussed it with their loved ones (or even realized that the discussion needs to happen) they will be hospitalized and ventilated and fed through a tube well beyond what they would have wished.

Families need to have marching orders from their loved ones before their loved ones are unable to speak. Remember Terri Schiavo, anyone? Advance Directive planning is a blessing to the patient, family and provider. If you wish for heroic measures to be taken, that’s all well and good, but if not your family needs to know, and they need to know now. Your preferences will change with time and with your own health. This is an ongoing consideration for us all.

I will talk frankly with my child (in age-appropriate ways) about death and the fact that none of us get out of this aliveMinimizing fear through calm discussion and openess to her questions, willingness to go with her to the hard places.

How Doctors Die – The Health Care Blog

“It’s not a frequent topic of discussion, but doctors die, too. And they don’t die like the rest of us. What’s unusual about them is not how much treatment they get compared to most Americans, but how little. For all the time they spend fending off the deaths of others, they tend to be fairly serene when faced with death themselves. They know exactly what is going to happen, they know the choices, and they generally have access to any sort of medical care they could want. But they go gently.”


Truthy Tuesday, I Voted

Mailing in my ballot just isn’t the same. But it’s darn convenient.

Feels a little useless, being on the West Coast the election is all but over before our polls even close. But OPB awesomely reminded me that this year marks the 100th anniversary of a woman’s right to vote in Oregon. Women fought for my right to be counted. Many many women in the world do not enjoy this right, even to this day.

I will stand up and be counted. My voice matters. My vote matters.

Women are important, valuable, and vital contributors to any government.

Rock the vote.

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Truthy Tuesday, Be Body Positive Day

I’m late! Be Body Positive Day was August 5th. Gah!

From The Body Positive org:

The purpose of BE BODY POSITIVE DAY is to do something enjoyable that expands your love for your unique body. You can do an activity alone, with family or friends, or just change the thoughts in your mind. The point is to spend a day doing the things that give you pleasure because you deserve to feel good about who you are! Authors Dr. David Sobel and Dr. Robert Ornstein write in their book Healthy Pleasures, “In short, the healthiest people seem to be pleasure-loving, pleasure-seeking, pleasure-creating individuals.” We believe that loving yourself and your body is not only a privilege but a right for EVERY person!

What does it mean to me to Be Body Positive? To me it means loving my amazing body as it exists right now. Recognizing what my body does for me every day. Foregoing intentional weight loss and self hatred and opting instead for eating foods that make me feel good and moving my body in ways that make me feel good.

To me it means rocking that green dress and doing my best not to care about what anyone else will think. It means buying a bathing suit that I like, instead of the one with the skirt, or the one that will ‘make me look 10/15/100 pounds slimmer!’ It means swimming with my seven year old without any reservations about showing my thighs, upper arms, or backfat.

I’m gonna go ahead and review a book even though I haven’t finished it yet! I am already in Rad Fattie love with the author, Ragan Chastain, of Dances with Fat fame.

A few things that I stand for:  I believe that everybody of every size should be treated with respect.  I believe that it is impossible to tell somebody’s health based on their weight.  I believe in giving people correct information and affordable options for eating and movement, and I believe in respecting whatever choices they make whether or not they are the choices I would make.

Her book is FAT: An Owner’s Manual, Navigating a Thin-Obsessed World with Your Health, Happiness, and Self-Esteem Intact. In this book you will find tips and tricks for dealing the a**holes that life throws at rad fatties.

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Truthy Tuesday, Adoption in 1978

There has been much movement in my current adoption story over the past week. I had this post ready to go a few weeks ago, and I’m gonna stick with it. I don’t feel ready to discuss the current news so quickly, but be on the lookout for an update a little later this summer.

Until then, please enjoy some random snippets from my “Petition for Adoption”, written in 1978…

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Truthy Tuesday, Changes Part II

I struggle to write this one, a continuation of this post.

To say that my life as a thirty-something is different than my mom’s was at the same age is like saying that the national debt is just a little bit bigger than it was in 1985.  That there are just a few more cars on the road today than there were in 1985.

The difference is huge.  HUGE.

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